One life, live it well

I thought it would be appropriate to write about love. Not mushy stuff I promise. Just a few things I’d like to share. Valentine’s Day is about celebrating love, showing loved ones how much you love them and appreciate them. or for some it’s an opportunity to show secret crushes how we feel. But it’s not for everyone. We should spend more time showing the people we love how we feel everyday not just today. It can also be very difficult day for some people. The ones who haven’t found that special someone, or who can’t be with their loved ones for what ever reason. Let’s spread the love and best wishes to everyone today, whether you’re in love or not. Another thing to remember is, do not be careless or reckless with people’s hearts and minds. Do not allow people to be careless or reckless with yours. Life is too short and too precious to spend it worrying or wasting time on people who don’t give you the same consideration in return. No matter how near or far, how often you see each other is irrelevant, if you want to make the effort to stay in touch then you will. It takes seconds to send a message/email. Life moves on and goes past so quickly, choose who you share it with carefully. Don’t have regrets, you can only learn from your mistakes and they’ve made you who you are. Mistakes can make your stronger, wiser.  Don’t look back, only look forward. Live for the now, make the most of every day, every moment. You can’t fail if you don’t give up. If something hasn’t worked or not turned out right it doesn’t mean you’ve failed at it, you’ve just learned how to do something different or a better way next time. Take a different path and go round obstacles, keep pushing forward, dreams,hopes, ambitions, goals, aspirations, only stop if you stop. You can’t control everything. You can only take responsibility for your actions. If people don’t want to be with you, then you have to ask yourself, are they really worthy of you in the first place? Don’t be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. Don’t give your heart if it won’t be returned. It’s hard at the beginning, if someone gives up on you, or if things don’t work out and you just drift apart. Whatever the reason breaking up is really tough. The emptiness, the heartache, the loneliness, it feels like it’ll never end. You can feel like you’ve failed. You wonder how you’ll be with anyone else. But it gets easier, learn to love yourself first, be with someone who loves you unconditionally for who you are, no matter what. Time is the most precious thing we have and something you can never get back. Choose how you spend it wisely. A good friend once said to me “It’ll all be ok in the end, and if it’s not ok, then it’s not the end” I totally believe this, even through the darkest times, when things are thrown at you that you didn’t expectand life may feel like it will never be the same again, the light will return, and happiness will be found again, even if it’s slightly different from how it was before, everything in time will be ok somehow. You are stronger than you know. Only you can decide how your story goes. Make the rest of your life the best of your life. It’s never too late to reach your dreams. You’re never too old to make a new goal. If you have a hunger and a passion for something you want to do, don’t let someone else stand in your way. You only get 1 life, don’t live it in a lie, follow your heart, live your truth. Don’t look back with regrets. Take a chance, choose to have faith, not hope. Trust your inner strength. Only you can get yourself where you want to be. Start your day with positivity and gratitude. Make it count. You came into this world with nothing and will leave with nothing, make everything else in between as valuable, worthwhile, meaningful and memorable as you can.
Be kind, Be bold, shine bright, believe in yourself.

 

“I’m ok I’m just tired”

When someone asks if you’re ok or how you are, or ‘you don’t seem yourself?’ All you can say is ‘I’m tired’ because it’s the easiest and safest thing to say. Like it’s just that you didn’t sleep well last night and just need a couple of hours sleep or just a little rest over the weekend and you’ll be fine by Monday. How it would all be so easy to fix. But sadly in most cases that’s just not it. For anxiety and depression sufferers, ‘tiredness’ isn’t just needing a couple of hours sleep. You can’t just snap out of it. It is not a choice. It’s a mental and emotional torment that is draining every piece of you constantly. Behind the fake smile and nervous jokes, behind the pretence and facade, it’s a deep dark place that you’re trapped in. Where you are tired, so desperately tired, but it’s being tired of the pain, the noises in your head, the restlessness, the worrying, the torment, the self doubt, no self esteem, no self worth. Tired of irrational thoughts, feeling like you don’t matter, feeling like a failure, that your worthless, unimportant, useless. In so many cases, tired of life, tired of the world. Feeling worse because you’re frustrated with yourself, feeling like you are a burden to everyone. Wanting to just stop and get off the ever spinning rollercoaster. I know all too well how it feels to be ‘tired’ and alone. But there are so many people to help and support you. You are not alone. It can feel like the loneliest place in the world, even if you’re surrounded by loving people but please know you don’t need to suffer in silence. You don’t need to go through this on your own. Together we are stronger.